7 Steps to Raise Resilient Kids
(c) Judy Helm Wright http://www.judyhwright.com
Resilience in life means that you and your child can bounce back from adversity. It could be traumatic like a death in the family, or as trivial (to you) as not being asked to play during recess.
Resilient kids have been shown in many scientific and anecdotal studies to have better grades, more friends and a happier life. These characteristics are what we hope all kids will have, but research also shows that resilient kids must be taught to be bounce back people.
Magic of Encouragement
Parents who encourage their children are actually giving the gift of courage. It is the power to keep trying. By teaching and modeling flexibility in all situations, you will be empowering your kids to bounce back from challenges.
Here are 7 steps to teach your kids to be resilient
- Model resilience in our own lives. As parents, we all recognize how important it is to encourage our children to believe in themselves, and yet we do not practice what we preach. Our children will follow what we do, not what we say.
- 2. Talk about past successes and future opportunities. In the middle of a crisis situation, many children feel that this pain will exist for the rest of their lives. Help them to understand that it is a temporary circumstance and remind them of past successes and future opportunities.
- 3. Find heroes in real life and literature. Tell stories of those you know or know of who have overcome great obstacles in order to persevere to their goal.
- 4. Find Five Solutions. Every situation has a minimum of five solutions. Many times we get stuck in a rut of just using old behavior patterns. Even putting away the toys can be done in at least five different ways. Help them be a problem solver.
- 5. Learn Optimism. When your kids are disappointed, allow them to feel and express their feelings, but then ask them to share at least three things good that came from the situation.
- 6. Re-frame the experience. Assist them in looking at the experience from different viewpoints. Rather than assuming the friend doesn’t like them, help them see the other person might just be having a bad day.
- 7. Give and receive help. One of the most powerful ways to teach children about resilience is to involve them in giving service and being aware of the needs of others. Resilient kids learn to be more outward directed.
If you want to raise resilient kids who can bounce back, you will find that as you practice these 7 steps you will form a closer relationship with your children. You will be doing an important work in making a better world. There is no more important work. Thank you.
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